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Link: 72% of women considered leaving their husband?!
via CNN.com: A new Woman’s Day and AOL Living poll found that a shocking 72 percent of women surveyed have considered leaving their husbands at some point. But despite the occasional rocky patch, 71 percent expected to be with their husbands for the rest of their lives. So how do you make it to the finish line with your relationship intact? Each decade will have its own drama, be it child-rearing, layoffs, second careers, and middle-aged angst, along with a big helping of the in-sickness-and-in-health stuff. Here’s how to have a healthy relationship every step of the way. 1. Watch your waistline, 2. Have a financial plan, 3. Figure out your family rules, 4. Make sex a priority — but not a chore, 5. Be flexible, 6. Stay active as you age, 7. Gab (a little) to your friend, 8. Rediscover each other as a couple, sans kids, 9. Be a conscious caregiver // Related: Smart Marriages
Link: What can Jon & Kate plus 8 learn from first lady Jenny Sanford?
Statement from first lady Jenny Sanford: I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind. It is for that reason that I deeply regret the recent actions of my husband Mark, and their potential damage to our children. I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband’s infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago…(read more).
Link: Experts share tips on talking to kids about infidelity
It’s one thing to have to confront adultery in your own family, but how do parents tackle the issue if kids hear stories in the playground or see other people’s parents kissing strangers while leaving school? It’s a matter typically dealt with behind closed doors, but in recent weeks, tales of confirmed and alleged infidelity involving high-profile couples have loomed large in the headlines. New York-based relationship expert Bonnie Eaker Weil said by hiding problems or lying to kids, parents can make matters worse. Weil said it’s crucial for parents not to be in the game of “blaming and shaming” one another in front of their children. ”You don’t want to destroy the relationship with their child but even more than that, because the child comes from that person.” // Related: Sex and Infidelity Track – Smart Marriages 2009
Why do people cheat?
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Link: My husband’s affair was the BEST thing that ever happened to our marriage
People assume that it’s the cheated spouse who heals the slowest, but it’s often the opposite. The cheater has to deal with all the guilt and shame and the sadness they’ve caused…
Link: Should your wife have guy-friends?
Jealousy over an opposite-sex friendship can be the result of projection, says Dr. Bonnie Jacobson, a New York City clinical psychologist and author of “Love Triangles: Seven Steps to Break the Secret Ties That Poison Love.” Some 83 percent of the people surveyed think that cross-gender friendships can and do exist, according to a 2001 Match.com poll of more than 1,500 members.
Asian Expat Marriage Challenges
Karen Mazurkewich, formerly a Hong Kong-based correspondent for The Wall Street Journal, is tackling a sensitive topic: Infidelity in Asian Expat Marriages—Can marriage survive the Asian expat life? Mazurkewich is collecting stories on the subject for a Canadian documentary film and can be contacted via email here.
Any marriage educators want to go to China? Expat marriages need your help!
Empty Nest infidelity to increase in 2009
Just last month researchers reported that marriage improves in the Empty Nest, but now infidelity expert Ruth Houston predicts that the poor economy may drive some couples to “Empty Nest affairs.” (Read more…)
