Iowa State sociologists find older adults turning to online options for love, marriage
The research found that spouses who met online are older and have much shorter courtships — averaging 18.5 months of dating before getting married by comparison to 42 months for those who met in more traditional ways offline. (Link)
Scott Stanley, author of Fighting for your Marriage, and co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies and a research professor of psychology at the University of Denver will be available to discuss your questions about dating, marriage and divorce at 3 p.m. ET, Tuesday. The conversation will be moderated virtually at that time.
Link: Barack Obama, Stop Ruining My Marriage
On Sunday, the New York Times did just that, with a story headlined “If They Can Find Time for a Date Night …” The gist: If the Obamas — with Mom committed to her various causes and Dad trying to save the free world — can still find time for each other, hey, lame husband sitting on the couch watching sports, time to step it up. The writer suggests that the President has placed an “elbow in the ribs of husbands,” while Jon Stewart has joked, “Take it down a notch, dude.”
Link: Why do some people get rejected by eHarmony?
Over the past four years, psychologist Gian Gonzaga has spent his days dissecting love as the lead researcher inside eHarmony Labs, the online dating service’s think tank, where Gonzaga and his colleagues observe and analyze romantic relationships. // There are three primary reasons why we’re not able to offer people service. We get kind of a remarkable number of people who are still married, which has always baffled me. Like every other service out there we think it would be highly unethical for us to match them. For a while we didn’t offer the service to people under 20, and now it’s under 18, so that’s another big chunk of people. The last one — and this is the one that becomes the most difficult one to explain to people — there is a set of people out there who have a very complicated view of themselves.
Link: Teen Dating Violence: How does your state measure up?
Each state treats teen victims of dating violence differently, but not all ways are created equal. Break the Cycle conducted a nation-wide review of state laws and found common trends—both positive and negative—that directly impact the protection of teens. California’s grade for protecting teen victims of dating and domestic violence is an A, while the bordering state of Arizona received an F. What grade did your state receive? Check out the interactive map here
via NY Times: It’s the Economy, Girlfriend.
Raoul Felder, the Manhattan divorce lawyer, said that cases involving financiers always stack up as the economy starts to slip, because layoffs and shrinking bonuses place stress on relationships — and, he said, because “there aren’t funds or time for mistresses any more.” (Read full article)
Related Link: DABA Blog
Is Hooking-up Here to Stay?
According to Kathleen Bogle, a professor at La Salle University in Philadelphia who has studied hooking up among college students and is the author of the 2008 book, “Hooking Up: Sex, Dating and Relationships on Campus.”, it’s: the collapse of advanced planning, lopsided gender ratios on campus, delaying marriage, relaxing values and sheer momentum. (Click here for full article)
